13th Arcana compatibility.

Typically, with such an arcana in a pair, constant transformations should occur. If negative, these are quarrels and separations; if positive, it's a joint transformation of personalities and reaching a new level. The couple can exist; the key is to properly utilize the potential, not to quarrel constantly, but instead to unite and grow.

Tasks in partnership with the 13th Arcanum: To become 'reality sanitarians', jointly exploring the philosophy of life and death. Engaging together in extreme sports, holotropic breathing, and rebirthing is beneficial. Avoid lingering in the state of death. Do not fear ending old life cycles and embarking on new ones.

Could someone share their experience with this type of compatibility? 🙏🏻

Yeah, we dated for a few months, felt like we'd known each other forever. Broke up in an hour

We were in a relationship for several years. From the very beginning we argued and made up very often (every other month), then there was a lull and suddenly a huge argument and breakup (we thought we'd forget each other and never meet again). After a couple of months we somehow ended up reuniting, but we'd both changed (he became more like me before the breakup, and I became more like him before the breakup). We dated for two years, survived 9 months of long-distance, but after some time I was diagnosed with depression and I moved in with him, after a year we broke up. The breakup was very painful again, but this time we really thought it was final. We had no contact whatsoever for six months, blocked each other everywhere, but due to the recent terrorist attack, he sent a message telling me to be careful since things are unstable in the city right now, and it turned out we met up to discuss what's bothering us about ourselves at the moment, which eventually led to the problems we had in our relationship back then. During our conversation, we noticed we've both changed, and we can't ignore the fact that we're always drawn to each other, so because of that we decided to try again, working on our relationship and helping each other deal with our problems.

Bloody hell

Same here)

So it turns out to be constant emotional swings.
I met a man through correspondence who lives on the other side of the world. At first I didn't pay much attention to this communication because we lived far apart. But while talking with him, I felt very drawn to him. And it's that kind of attraction that switches off your brain, and you can't explain it rationally. That's what karmic relationships are. Soon we argued over something trivial and stopped talking. After a few months he was passing through my city and called me. Even though he was supposed to come a month earlier when I was leaving. We really liked each other, agreed to go on holiday together soon and... argued and cut off contact. But I had this feeling that our paths would cross again.

That's how the 13th arcana works in compatibility.

You meet by fate's decree under unusual circumstances, when you shouldn't have. You're insanely drawn to each other, but you can abruptly cut everything off. And then reappear in each other's lives again.

And how are things in your relationship now?

Our situation is quite peculiar and confusing... we've known each other for six long years,
and time and again, we come together only to part ways, with breaks lasting years where we don't see each other at all.
Yet, we ourselves are to blame for our inability to have a proper conversation and truly understand what we want from one another.

I'm currently in such a relationship
As I understood it's in the negative
7th and 12th arcana together
At first everything was perfect, then frequent arguments started, we broke up but can't live without each other. We want to get back together but my partner can't handle arguments and thinks more about themselves.
Now I'm racking my brains - is the compatibility arcana like this or is it the wrong person
But I'll repeat, we can't fall out of love and separate completely. These are either karmic relationships, either work through them or leave them.

10 years of marriage, 3 kids, ended up meeting a mistress at 49 and left, had another child with her.

Yeah, same with us, 6 years of emotional rollercoaster. We can't break up properly but we can't be together either.

Yes, we were friends since 6th grade. In 9th grade we started dating, but due to misunderstandings we broke up and got back together several times. We broke up later for unclear reasons, we weren't listening to each other. Now we're in 11th grade (in the same class), it's difficult, I want to talk and discuss things, but it's just not happening.

We met in a place where I'd never have imagined. I was invited to work as a campaigner, and I reluctantly agreed. He saw me there, liked me, started messaging, but I refused to start communicating three times because of the 7-year age gap. On his fourth attempt, I replied, and we started chatting only online since I didn't want to meet in person. After about 5 months, the push-pull dynamic started. I decided to end it. Exactly two weeks later, we accidentally met. I hadn't even thought we'd ever cross paths again. We started talking again, and the push-pull continued. I cut off communication again because it was really painful - he'd ignore me one moment, then be affectionate the next. He messaged again, we tried to start something once more - it didn't work out. And I threw myself into work. I met the love of my life, and we're happy in our relationship. Then, 4 months after our last message, he wrote. Said he loves me, misses me, wants to start over. I still have feelings for him, the purest, most platonic kind. But I'm in a relationship, and I love my future husband. That's how it went 👎🏻

Relatable 🙏

I've only just started learning about the arcana. With my ex it was the 13th arcana, we broke up ages ago, but I'm still drawn to him. Emotional rollercoasters, daily breakups - that was our relationship. But despite that, we got back together millions of times. I'm in another relationship now, but I'm drawn to him, even though I'm a mature and conscious person, I can't help myself. I don't love him, but I want to be with him, I don't need him, but I want him standing next to me. I don't love him, but I know everything about him, from his family tree to his insides. I don't love him, but I damn well want to feel his gaze on me, his gaze that devours me while I'm tearing up the dance floor. I don't love him, but I know everything he loves, what he'd do for it. He's ready to beat everyone's faces in for me, he's ready to do anything for me. I'm cheating on my current boyfriend with my ex. I arrange meetings, we meet at our spot, I look into his eyes, I'm ready for anything if those eyes are only looking at me, and they always only look at me. We talk, we don't have any intimacy and never did, just seeing him is enough for me to melt again, but I don't love him. I don't know what this is. But I want to see him next to me every day of my life, for him to be the father of my children, to fall asleep and wake up together. I don't love him. He has his own life, but he still loves me, but he already has a partner, and so do I. But we secretly meet and speak words of tenderness, but then the time comes and we say goodbye again. I'd give my life for him. But I don't love him.

There's an ex with whom the compatibility was 13 arcana. And now I'm dating a guy with whom it's also 13 arcana. Two different people. It turned out that with the ex it was just in the negative arcana, while with the current one it's in the positive. These relationships are definitely given with great difficulty and investment, we try to improve for each other, but we're doing well. And I don't even want to remember the ex, it was just awful there.. Everything exactly as in the negative 13 arcana

We have the 13th arcana, we met online but had known each other before, neither of us wanted to chat for long and wished to meet in person. We couldn't meet due to some silly coincidences; the first time we planned it, everything went wrong for me, and the second time, we completely misunderstood each other and ended up in different cities 😂. After a while, we finally met, and from the very first meeting, there was an instant passion. After that, we started seeing each other on his initiative and had a great time, but we never managed to have a proper conversation about what was between us. One moment he had feelings for me, the next he didn't. I decided that such uncertainty wasn't for me and returned to my city, trying to forget him and change my life. He occasionally messaged me, asking how things were going there. At first, I couldn't help but reply because I still had feelings, but later I told him it would be easier for me if he stopped writing. Two weeks passed, with a new job and a new place to live—everything was really tough. I wanted to go back to the city where we met; I just couldn't forget him, no matter how hard I tried. I made the decision to move to his city but with a clear agreement with myself not to tell him about it and with the firm understanding that I was doing it for myself, not for him, because I felt more comfortable in that city. I moved, and of course, the first thing I did was message him about it. We resumed our relationship, chatting, meeting up, spending passionate nights together, but we never broached the topic of our relationship. I try to start a conversation with him about it, but he doesn't engage, even though he's the one initiating the meetings. I feel that I'm interesting and needed by him, but I still don't understand what's going on in his head. I've decided to leave things as they are because my feelings for him are only growing stronger. This story has been going on for 3 months; what happens next, I'll keep you updated 😅.

Between us, there is the 13th arcana; honestly, I only found out about it recently. Our arguments were over everything, but most of the time, they were made up out of thin air. I would leave and then come back, and relatively recently, we got divorced. But then, in the end, he saw me crying during a live broadcast, and I wouldn't give him any peace. As a result, a couple of days ago, he wrote to me, we talked, and met up. We didn't recognize each other because both of us had changed so much. We want to get back together because we understand that we need each other. Perhaps our karmic lesson hasn't been completed yet, but I still realize how difficult it will be to explain to my loved ones that I want to be with him again. So, our story isn't over yet; we've come to the conclusion that we need to become the best versions of ourselves, because we met for a reason.

The worst arcana, we've been living together for 5 years now. Constant aggression from his side, arguments. I try to break up, he won't leave, transforms for a short time, it's a vicious circle

Pretty much the same situation, we were in a relationship for two months, broke up due to intense arguments, got back together every month, then broke up again for 3 months and recently decided to try again, I'm insanely drawn to him and he hasn't been able to forget me all this time. No idea how this will turn out 🤷🏻♀️

We were very attached to each other, but the relationship wasn't progressing and we broke up against our own wishes

We met and never parted. 15 years married. A child. Lots of passion, laughter, an Italian family. Arguments for no reason. We argue in a funny way. Constant flare-ups and very quick reconciliations. An hour passes and it's love again. Very attached to each other. Sex is fire.

Wishing you happiness!

Exactly the same

And that's a Karmic union for you

Five years together, we live brilliantly, no arguments. But we really do have constant transformations - job changes, moving house, now children. More plans ahead, so the transformations will continue. If we don't stop then we'll live a happy life))

We were together for 10 years, broke up and got back together several times, in the end we split up and each has their own personal life now. The reason for the breakup was his unsociability.

We stay in touch every day, but just as close friends and nothing more. Who knows, maybe in a couple of years we'll get back together again 😅

Then what the hell do you need your boyfriend for? This isn't about the arcana, it's about you not giving a damn about people's feelings

He's a narcissist, that's the whole story. Why disrespect yourself like that? It's laughable how people blame everything on arcana when they're suffering from codependency themselves. "I couldn't I can't I couldn't" - that's what your text is saturated with. Weak will and spinelessness.

If you don't mind putting yourself through it, you can give it a try. It's intriguing, isn't it? A woman should be in harmony. But this is nothing but toxicity—do you really need that?! I'm telling you this as a mature woman who accidentally got caught up in a karmic lesson with a guy and managed to break free. Well, I hope you understand. As soon as you sense it, steer clear immediately.

I also want to share my experience with the 13th Arcana. When we first met, it felt like we had known each other forever—we immediately clicked, had an incredible pull towards one another, but at some point, the hot-and-cold games began. I'm an open person by nature and love sharing things, whereas my partner was the opposite, always silent, though this didn't start right away. Most likely, the relationship turned negative at some point. After about a year together, we stopped understanding each other, and that's when we broke up for the first time (for 10 days)—it was the longest separation. One-day breakups were constant. I don't know why we held onto each other, but we were addicted to this relationship. We parted ways after four years together (on his initiative). He convinced himself that we were dragging each other down. The most painful part for me was his departure, so to speak. I have a strong feeling that he will reappear (I believe he couldn't let me go either).

So, if you enter a relationship with the 13th Arcana and realize it's turning negative, please talk to each other. If that doesn't work, it's better to part ways immediately—letting go of such a relationship later is very painful... Otherwise, say goodbye to your mental health...

For me, it was the most painful but also the most vivid of all relationships. Personally, we met in a mutual group, but we knew and had seen each other since childhood because our parents have been family friends for about 20-30 years. I used to visit their house quite often, but I rarely caught him there. But when I saw him as a little girl, it was as if I'd already fallen in love with him then (he's older than me). There was some kind of magnetism. He's a 5th arcana, I'm an 8th. When we met in the group, I spoke to him first. I'd already heard that he was very detached, a closed-off person and he'd never had serious relationships (even his mum complained to mine about him not having a girlfriend and her worrying about it). He's absolutely not my type personality-wise, but for some reason I fell in love, and I understood straight away that my love wasn't healthy, but I decided to continue because these passions and emotions that were boiling so intensely drew me in. We'd talk for hours from morning till night. When I felt bad, he'd come to me at night, no matter what time it was. I'd say 'Kitty, I feel awful', he'd reply 'I'm coming, sunshine'. He'd take me away from my parents because we have a terrible relationship and we argue constantly, even to the point of physical fights. I was his first love, he'd never talked to girls so openly before. At the same time, I couldn't even have imagined he was like that. Honestly thought he was a proper womaniser (but before the relationship I asked almost all his relatives and friends, they all confirmed he'd always been like that). With tears in his eyes he confessed to me that I was the first person he'd said 'I love you' to, that I was the first person he'd trusted with such intimate secrets. We cried together. I always supported him in any endeavours, just as he did for me. We ran away to another city when we argued with my family, blocked them all. I was on the wanted list, they tried to catch us, we ran from the police through all the cities, climbed over barbed wire when the building was completely surrounded. We laughed and joked like friends.

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I endured hunger and poverty with him. I fell head over heels in love, even though I had something to compare it to. Towards the end of our relationship, we also started experiencing emotional swings—sometimes everything was perfect, other times it was awful. The arguments were just as intense as the rest of our relationship had been. He left the day before my birthday. Before that, we had argued, made up, and talked. I saw him off to work, and before leaving, he said he wanted children with me, apologised, and told me everything would be wonderful between us. After that, he started replying less often during work, just one or two messages. Although before, he would always write during every break. I asked what had happened, maybe it was a tough day? He replied that he was very busy and they were really working hard. I thought, alright, but we had such a strong connection... I felt something was wrong, as I always do when something is about to happen or is happening. (I generally have good intuition, with the 2nd and 15th arcana in my talents.) My heart was racing for no reason, and in the end, he didn’t return in the morning. (He worked nights.) I called, texted, searched for him on the streets. He was nowhere to be found. He disappeared, but not before stealing my phone, my things, my SIM card, my Sberbank card, and the keys to my flat! I felt terribly bad, started drinking and using... (Everything’s fine now.) He never returned any of the things he stole. It turns out he’s now living off his younger sister and not working🤪. There was so much that happened, and it still hurts that I invested so much effort, supported him, believed in him, fed him, clothed him, and helped him ALWAYS (he even lived with me for a while at my expense). But after the breakup, I went through a wild transformation and became MUCH stronger. I started working out, training my entire body, and also took up martial arts—Thai boxing. I delved deeper into psychology and esotericism, focused on my appearance, and became more beautiful. Now, I receive plenty of attention, so I’m not missing out!

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What do you think, is a breakup possible when you don't want anything from the relationship anymore?

We lived together for 9 years. We were drawn to each other like magnets. He was my support, my protection from this world. We were never apart for more than a day. There were arguments in the first 2 years, then we learned to understand and accept each other. This year he went to the special military operation, where he died. I forgot how to breathe, how to live. Part of me died with him.

Who can answer this question: in a couple, is the attachment felt equally?
Or if, let's say, is it possible that one has let go while the other hasn't?

Sooner or later, you'll be drawn back to each other. The pull towards one another is mutual, inexplicable. It might seem like all bridges are burned, everything is against you, but you're drawn together, you're back together and a new beautiful story begins. Bound by chains and ribbons (those are song lyrics). So yeah, this is just about that kind of relationship.

You're right, all bridges are burned )
But, even after 3 years now, my longing hasn't gone anywhere
The feeling that I missed out on something that was 'meant for me'

It was interesting how this works - whether it's mutual, or just one-sided (as it often is)

Thank you for your response
I really appreciate responsive people )

We were married for 10 years. Constant arguments, jealousy, restrictions. And at the same time, they felt like family. Ended up divorcing, now we're enemy number one.

We met when my grandfather died. I had to travel to another city, to my grandmother's for the funeral. It was a very difficult period because my grandfather was like a parent to me. This was in May. I didn't know him, but he knew me - yes. He saw me in VK recommendations, often looked at my photos. He was attracted by my eyes, according to him, they were so loving and kind. I started chatting with an old friend who invited me out on 31 May. I agreed to go to distract myself. And she introduced me to him when she took me to his place. When he saw me, he later admitted he thought I was a model. Then my friend left and we were alone. We started talking. It was very strange to talk to someone I knew so little, but whose outlook on life turned out to be similar. We even fell in love with each other at the same time. At some point I just looked at him, and he looked back at me. And I felt that I liked him. Since then we started spending more time together. We talked a lot, watched lots of films and anime, went on many drives, he taught me to drive. He gave me compliments and was very kind, honest and reliable. That attracted me. We started living together. Everything was wonderful. Then we had a long-distance relationship, but we overcame even that. Then we started living together again and misunderstandings began, there were arguments. His feelings cooled down, he became more rational, mine cooled down too, but I try to rekindle them. We're still together, almost two years now. And we have common goals, shared plans. It's not easy for us to agree because he turned out to be completely inflexible, but I try not to push my position because over time he'll understand everything himself.

It works in both directions! The 13th arcana is interesting precisely because it creates an incredible pull between people. They're drawn together again and again for working through things and personal transformation. In this most beautiful pair, it's never boring. But it's even more interesting to watch the bewildered faces of those around. After all, everyone long ago decided for you that your union was over. And it flares up again even more brightly. Yes, it's exhausting! But better bright than a monotonous swamp for your whole life!!! That's what I think

I recently discovered that my lover and I are connected by the 13th arcana. We've known each other for a year, both married, yet we couldn't resist the force that drew us together in an instant.

At 35, this is a first for me—I gave myself to a man just an hour after meeting him, and with him, I also experienced what it means to 'communicate soul to soul' for the first time. For instance, we can simply drive in silence and, without any prior agreement, be thinking the same thoughts, which is truly astonishing. We dream of each other simultaneously. The moment I think of him, he sends that long-awaited message. Many symbolic moments occur.

And here's something! The most amazing sign for me is his rather uncommon name; I had never met or known anyone with that name in my life. A week before we met, a guy with that name was hired at my job. At the time, I didn't pay it any mind. But on the day we met, my lover became the second person with that name that day! Earlier, his namesake rented a flat from me, and in the evening, I met him. So, within a week, three men with the same rare name entered my life. Incredible! And all this while I'm completely unfamiliar with concepts like 'karmic relationships' and such.

Over six months, we attempted to break up several times because our connection started harming our families. Initially, he suggested taking a break. I thought he was backing out. But that wasn't the case... In a huge city of millions, we bumped into each other twice in different places entirely by chance—we live and work in different areas... after which he proposed we start seeing each other again.

Then, I went abroad with my husband for a few months, and there was no physical way to communicate with my lover, not even through messages. I was sure that everything would fade or he'd find someone else during that time.

When I returned, I found a pile of messages on my 'secret phone' from him, saying he missed me and was waiting, knowing I wouldn't read them.

And now, we've taken another break just before the New Year to spend peaceful time with our families.

I have an absolute, 100% inner certainty that this isn't the end...

For the first time in my life, I've stumbled upon this mess called the '13th Arcana Compatibility'. Love that reaches the heavens, feeling like each other's continuation, turns into wild hatred during arguments. During fights, I tremble as if going through withdrawal. An intense fear of losing the person, as if tearing out a part of myself by the roots. In this compatibility, do both partners experience the same? A mental connection? And how on earth did you people survive!! Breaking up is like a small death, ripping away with the skin still attached.

We dated for a year, at first it was like a fairytale, as if we'd known each other forever, very similar, then arguments and now we haven't been together for six months, but we can't break up properly either. We've become those exes - whenever things go badly with a new partner, we come back to each other.

Bloody hell... you've described the feelings exactly as they are, felt like I'd given my soul away
Don't know how I survived

The meeting was completely unplanned, but fate brought us together and led us on a winding path. I was living quietly, looking for a job... when a classmate flew into my city and simply persuaded me to travel 3,000 km with him to see an office and the specifics of the work (later, he opened an office in my city, and I worked there). He bought round-trip plane tickets... On the evening before the flight home, in a WhatsApp group of childhood friends, they convinced me to visit one of them. At 11 p.m., I changed my ticket and in the morning went to see her in the Caucasus. Thinking I would spend time with her family, but she introduced me to her lover (she was in the process of divorcing her husband), and he brought along a friend... so I wouldn't be bored while traveling. A sweet guy, I thought, always smiling... I even felt like giving him a hug. There was all sorts of little attentiveness... giving me his jacket in the mountains and freezing himself, making sure I ate, driving around the city at night, texting at night, etc. Romance, in short. But I knew it was temporary—different cultures, I'm 15 years older, not my type in terms of height, status, etc., not to mention the distance of almost 4,000 km. In short, not my type. But I didn't push him away because his birthday was coming up. We spent a nice week together, and I flew away... Thought it would all be forgotten... but he's a Scorpio—they don't let go easily. Calls, texts... we argued when he woke me at night... blocking each other. Then he had his military service... six months of messaging and late-night calls... I flew to him when he returned... two weeks with him, and then it started... a love text from an old girlfriend of his with details that he hadn't visited her after his service... he denied it, saying he'd known her for 10 years, etc., didn't go to her because I came into his life, etc. Another six months of messaging... always in touch... his jealousy without reason... unexpected video calls, etc. I flew again six months later, this time for a month... I was sitting with his phone, waiting for a message in a friends' group I wasn't in (they were planning a mountain trip), and then I stumbled upon his messages with her... occasional meetings... and what hurt the most was a text to her six months ago, right after I had boarded the plane... we argued... he convinced me not to leave... etc. Then military service again...

Before he returns, we argue again... my distrust... his communication with that friend (like she helped him 10 years ago, and he can't betray her. But they won't be together... just friendly sex since we see each other well if once a year... or even less) and so on... block... for a couple of months... terrible longing... everything turns inside out... he watches all statuses among the first... and just his like under one of them and it's lovey-dovey again... packing for a trip to him... and then he's sent to training before another deployment. Everything gets cancelled... another six months of waiting... he's already all on edge and so on... plus I periodically nag, trying to figure out what to expect next and whether it's worth it... In the end, we argue again and go silent... he's kind of proud... I started the argument, so I should write first... and I try to get out of the relationship... but I always wait for at least a text.

It turns out we are both vector (strong attraction) and the 13th arcana... he's 5, I'm 8... I know we'll meet again because I bought a flat nearby and plan to move in a couple of years) and he always says, I'm always happy to see you and always want you... But age, his desire to have children even more hold me back from communicating... although the pull is damn strong.

Sorry for the length... my head is a mess.

Same here. Arguments every month, several breakups, we were together for almost 3 years, but what seemed like the final one was a year ago. We were also blocked everywhere, but recently started exchanging phrases, occasionally messaging. He's changed a lot, I've changed too, we're still drawn to each other, but we can't do anything about it for now.