Sex after childbirth

From my two personal experiences:
1) I had a natural delivery, had sex after 2 months – it was scary, I was afraid the stitches would come apart. After a couple of times, I got used to it and everything was fine.
2) I had a natural delivery, but they stitched me up too tightly and caught some nerve. It's been 4 months since delivery, sex is very painful at first – I want to run away somewhere – but then it passes. I've seen several doctors, yesterday they said it will only go away after about a year. But what worries me most is my periods, which come twice a month. They say there's still inflammation after childbirth and I need antibiotics. But I'm breastfeeding my baby – I don't know what to do.

I gave birth naturally both times, without a C-section. Of course, it's not as tight as before, but my husband is satisfied. I also do Kegel exercises.

The main thing is not to be afraid if it feels uncomfortable. Lubricants, oils, and such are there to help. It might be a bit different at first, but then everything will normalize. After all, a woman's life doesn't end after childbirth, no matter what the naysayers tell you.

I gave birth naturally. The first few times (this happened about 6 weeks after delivery) having sex was painful. The first time felt like losing my virginity all over again, ugh. Then everything went back to normal. I do Kegel exercises. My husband says everything "down there" is just like before. I don't feel any changes myself either.

We resumed after a month, with a condom though. Abstinence drove me completely crazy, I even passed out from an orgasm. There were no stitches, but it was a bit painful at first—everything tightens up quite a bit in a month. My husband says he doesn't feel any changes. I don't either.

Everything has stretched out for me. It's become at least twice as wide. Sex is just humiliating—like a pencil in a glass. Considering the pencil is 19 cm and thick. I was cut and stitched up during childbirth, but it's possible one of the stitches came undone. It's been many years since then. It's gotten a bit tighter, but it's still a nightmare because I remember how tight everything was before. This winter, I'm going for surgery to have it tightened.

Sex one month after childbirth, with two stitches.
The first time was a bit painful, and there were no pleasant sensations at all. Considering that our sex life had been very active, even during pregnancy (the day before delivery;), I was quite anxious afterward that my libido might not return.
Then we started using lubricant;) and it was magical;))))
I don't feel any changes, and neither does my husband. Now the baby is 3 months old, my libido has returned, and nothing hurts down there.
Don't worry! The key is to have a longer foreplay and use plenty of lubricant the first time. As for stretching, I think it varies from person to person.

We carefully tried for the first time three weeks after childbirth. It was a bit uncomfortable and dry when inserting the penis, but once it was in, everything was great! Although people usually talk about waiting one to one and a half months. The small scar from the episiotomy had already healed long before that. By two months, we were having sex fully. There were no changes in my perception or my husband's—it was just the same as before pregnancy and childbirth. Not better, not worse.

I'm amazed at some people, how can one even stoop so low. Nothing has even healed yet, it hurts them, but no, they still jump into bed. Ugh, it's disgusting to read.

P.S. And don't you dare start spinning tales like "I wanted it so bad, so bad"—you can feed that chaff to men, they might believe it.

Like a pinky in a liter jar.

"I'm amazed at some people, how can one even stoop so low. Nothing has even healed there yet, it's painful for them, but no, they jump into bed. Ugh, it's disgusting to read.
P.S. And don't start telling me tales like 'I wanted it so badly, so badly'—you can feed that chaff to the men, they might believe it."

You're telling me, my doctor said no sex for two months. And she said it to my husband too and explained why to him.
And here some people, just after three weeks, couldn't care less about anything...

11, I wanted it myself. Really wanted to. We tried carefully and everything was great! And if it had hurt, we would have stopped immediately and continued to wait as long as needed. It's just, why were you told two months? Did you have a C-section or such severe tears? Usually, they say about a month to a month and a half. And of course, only with a condom at first.

Go see a doctor, ****. And quit your milk factory. Your health comes first. Do you want to die? And for what, mainly, because of the myth about the priceless benefits of boobs?

There was a C-section, but even that was scary the first time. After 1.5 months. But I was afraid that the abdominal scar might burst))). No, everything was fine))).

Less than a month later, we had sex. Everything was great! I had a smooth delivery with no tears or stitches. My husband mentioned that at first it felt somewhat wider, but now everything's fine—it has tightened up. It's been six months. For some reason, sex has become even better after childbirth!!!

What does pain have to do with it? You might not even feel these micro-injuries. The point is that there are restrictions (for healing) and it's clearly not a week, not two, and not even a month. And I'll never believe that after childbirth someone actually wants that. That there's a fear of losing a husband, a fear of "am I still attractive to him"—that I'd believe (and that's why they rush into bed almost on the second day after childbirth).

And where were these heartfelt confessions of yours when you were butting into the topic about KS?))))))))))))

All this is a matter of time, it will heal, but trying to make CS to ***** earlier is a strange approach)

Run to the doctor, ****. And quit your milk factory. Your health is the priority. Do you want to die? And for what, mainly, because of the myth about the invaluable benefits of breastfeeding?

I'm definitely worried, but I'll have to endure until Monday.

You didn't feel like it—but my hormones were raging, after 2 weeks I was wildly horny, but couldn't, so I endured. And after 3 weeks, we couldn't hold back.

My baby is 9 months old. I don't want to. My husband tried twice and it was very unsuccessful. There's a possibility, and a strong one, that I may never want to have sex with him again at all. In general, my outlook on life has somehow changed after giving birth. Everything has fallen into place.

The lack of desire for sex is purely hormonal. I think it's because I'm breastfeeding.

Run to the doctor, *****. And quit your milk factory. Your health is the priority. Do you want to die? And for what, mainly, because of the myth about the invaluable benefits of boobs?
You've lost your mind since giving birth, go to the hospital urgently and take antibiotics, your milk doesn't matter to the child, it can be replaced, but a mother can't be replaced, you'll send yourself to the grave with your foolishness.

Moreover, many antibiotics are compatible with breastfeeding.

There was a tear, which the obstetricians said was small. It's been 4 months postpartum, and it's a mess. The gynecologist gave the green light after 6 weeks, but sex was out of the question—I was still in pain just sitting. I decided to try again 3 months after giving birth. The area of the suture is extremely painful, and there's plenty of lubrication since I'm not breastfeeding and my hormones have almost returned to normal. But beyond that, if you ignore the pain and then the discomfort around the scar, there's just nothing—absolutely nothing at all. I feel nothing whatsoever. My husband stays silent; he reaches orgasm, possibly due to the long abstinence. I'm scheduled for surgery next Saturday because I don't want to live with this mess of scars. Sorry for the details, but when you go to the bathroom and stand up from the toilet, you end up passing gas through the vagina. External tears aren't really the main issue here; it's an internal tearing of the pelvic floor muscle fibers—some have it worse, some less. And if they're torn, you can wait even 10 years and do Kegels 24/7, but it'll still be a mess. I've heard statistics that a third of women return completely to their pre-pregnancy state, a third worsen but not fatally, and a third end up with a mess. It's a damn lottery.

Actually, this is about the size of the dick, not about it healing sooner...

During my pregnancy, I read on Woman.ru about the "bucket" after childbirth and became afraid of it. In the end, I gave birth naturally, had internal tears, and got stitches. Exactly a month later, we started having sex, and the first few times were painful. My husband didn't notice any changes, saying it's as tight as it was before.

"A bucket" is not a given. Perhaps for some it wasn't super tight to begin with, for some everything will return to its original state. For some, it might stretch a little, but it won't significantly affect life afterward. There's also the pressure from internal organs, so if the vagina becomes slightly looser, no one will particularly notice anything. But then there are cases of catastrophe and the infamous bucket. This is a reality for many. One childbirth, and a super plus tampon falls out on its own—that's what a bucket is. It's veeery loose. During sex, you don't feel anything at all. It's not just about the husband; he doesn't say anything to me, as it should be, but I personally don't get any pleasure from sex at all. Consequently, I'll soon lose interest in doing it altogether, and as a result, the family falls apart. Truly a super prospect. Guessing whether it will stretch or not is impossible. Preventing it is impossible, though I'm lying—a C-section can be done. You can ignore it and live on with a lack of quality of life. I'm not trying to persuade anyone to have a C-section; it's each person's choice, as a C-section is an abdominal surgery with its own issues. But if I could turn back time, I would have insisted on a C-section for myself. And the bucket is one of the reasons, though far from the first.

And what, you don't feel anything yourself, only relying on your husband's opinion? Why don't women write about THEIR OWN sensations, but only—whether the husband noticed something bad or didn't notice. It feels like the wife is just an accessory to His Majesty the husband's perception of the world)))

I gave birth naturally twice. Two months later, we resumed having sex. The sensations haven't changed at all. My husband hasn't expressed any dissatisfaction either. He doesn't avoid sex and still desires me as before, and I'm absolutely certain there's no mistress. Now I've given birth for the third time. The delivery was without tears or complications. I hope there won't be any issues. My friends also haven't had problems after childbirth. They live with their husbands, and no one complains. Perhaps such cases are rare. But I believe it can happen. Probably, everything can be fixed.

After giving birth, I started chewing stimulating gum sometimes, Mega Extaz, it really boosts libido and helps me relax properly. Otherwise, both my husband and I were getting stressed because the sex was becoming rather passionless. Not every time, of course, but occasionally it's fine, and by the way, everything is gradually getting back on track.

I gave birth with my husband by my side. The delivery was a dry birth, which caused a small tear, and I got a couple of stitches. They said we could have sex after two months, but we couldn't wait the last week. The desire was intense, especially on my husband's part. At first, it was a bit painful, just slightly, but then it was absolutely wonderful!! Especially considering that the first few times before didn't lead to my orgasm.))) Now I can say our sex life is just excellent! The orgasms are a thousand times stronger than before!!! The most important thing is to be with someone you love.

Hello. After giving birth, during the stitching, they hit a nerve. Now I can't have a sex life... nothing at all ((( Nothing helps. No ointments. The pain is terrible, as if being cut. If anyone has experienced this, please share.

Maybe it will pass with time. Maybe some herbs.

It's been 4 months since I gave birth, and it's still very painful at the beginning, but then it's okay... and it's like this every time, even though we do it frequently.

What nonsense. I gave birth on May 14th, no tears or stitches, I want my husband like crazy. The desire is huge, apparently you have frigidity.

After my first delivery, we waited the recommended 1.5-2 months. But it was very unpleasant for me. Everything felt tight, dry. No pleasure at all. It wasn't pleasant and I didn't like it. And it stayed that way for a long time. I couldn't get in the mood either. I even felt kind of ashamed. Like the baby is small (but of course that's already crazy talk). Then I didn't have any desire for a long time after that. Mostly forcing myself through it. Over time it got better, but never like before childbirth. And now my husband and I haven't had anything for a year. During the second pregnancy it was this and that. Morning sickness, risk of miscarriage. Nothing happened. I feel like I should start with my husband already, but I don't want to... I read and envy how active some women are, wanting it already on the second day. I wish I had just a little bit of desire.

I agree, you need to think about yourself first and recover, the men can wait. I myself just psychologically can't do it

Changes can indeed occur, and it's different for everyone. For me, Diva helped with recovery after my second childbirth. After the first one, Kegel exercises helped me maintain vaginal tone, so everything had already recovered during breastfeeding. But with the second, things were much more complicated. Nothing recovered afterward, and on top of that, I started having major issues with the mucosa, such as dryness and burning. My doctor recommended gynecological laser treatment. I underwent therapy at Real Clinic on Belorusskaya with Diva. Everything went excellently, and gradually, the previous tone returned, and the discomfort completely disappeared as well.

What do you mean humiliate yourself? Wanting your own man is humiliation for you? I feel very sorry for you! The first time after childbirth is painful for almost everyone, so should we just not have sex at all then?

What a man-hater 😁

Usually they say a month and a half to two

But with your second case, were the pains only during sex or in other situations too?

Don't you want to see a sexologist?
Usually breastfeeding really increases libido, the baby stimulates the nipples.

Oh my God, how awful!!! Good luck with your surgery!!!

I completely disagree with you, I've heard so many times that nobody wants sex after childbirth, BUT everyone is different, I got the desire very quickly, but my husband himself says he's still afraid. Men aren't as bad as you make them out to be.

There are antibiotics now that are allowed during breastfeeding

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