Childbirth after 40!

My mom))

She's worked herself to the bone all her life, (plus hereditary diseases on top of everything—she takes after my grandmother, and our grandmother "weakened" early), but my mommy is still running around)))

Although about the child... I had a congenital speech defect, I had surgery (the surgery wasn't complicated, there were 5 other boys with young moms in the ward with me), and if you prepare for pregnancy—that would be super))))

It's just that my father was also older than my mom by probably 10-15 years.

Thank you, that's reassuring) I just started thinking about having a child now... many doctors make a sour face when they find out I've decided to have a baby at the threshold of 41!!

A friend of mine gave birth at 42. A wonderful little boy. And taking care of your health is important at any age.

My aunt had a child on her own at 42, her first one, without a husband, just for herself. And the result is, she has no money, the child isn't accepted into kindergarten, she doesn't want to work in the city (she's always worked on a rotational basis), she's become unkempt like an old granny, the child is almost 3 and speaks very poorly, and it seems to me she takes her anger out on him. Plus, she has a difficult personality. In short, I wouldn't want to end up like that.

I was born when my mother was 40, as long as the baby is loved and wanted, you'll manage the rest.

If this is your first child—just go for it without a second thought.

Come on, make up your mind already; menopause is just around the corner, and it can hit any time after 40.

That's for sure. My friend decided to have a second child, and at 37, menopause suddenly arrived—she was in shock...

Of course, author, go ahead and have the baby. And if you don't have any children yet, don't even hesitate.

Your father was older than your mom and you don't know his exact age?

I gave birth to my second child at 40, and everyone looked at me sideways and twirled their finger at their temple. But I only regret one thing—that I should have had children earlier; perhaps then I wouldn't have two, but three kids. I can say one thing: there is no one happier than me. I cherished and enjoyed every second of the pregnancy, and now I can't get enough of my little daughter. I had my first at 24 and didn't experience such feelings. Looking at me, my girlfriends are envious and considering having children in their 40s too, and two have already done so and don't regret it one bit!!! You should definitely have children!!!

Yes. I know examples, and the children are healthy and the mothers are ready to care for the baby (by the age of 40). It's a good age)

The whole issue lies in health, both mental and physical. Many people are afraid, they psych themselves out, plus they eat who-knows-what, don’t exercise, are inactive, and then complain that they have no health at all. Be more positive, more active—and everything will work out for you. Your body won’t let you down, and your baby will be born healthy.

How awful... I'm 52 and still no menopause...

Your friend probably smokes two packs a day, doesn't she?

Heavy smokers usually have early menopause.

But I don't drink or smoke—my periods are regular. It suggests that nature itself regulates who should reproduce and who shouldn't...

Even stranger things happen here. One lady on the childbirth thread shared that when she gave birth to her second child, the maternity hospital was so awful, it was cold, it was January or February, she doesn't remember exactly... She was asked, "Are you sure you don't remember the month your child was born?")))

"That's right, my friend decided to have a second child and menopause hit at 37, she was in shock...

Of course, author, go ahead and have children, and if you don't have any, don't even hesitate.

How awful... I'm 52 and still no menopause...

Your friend probably smokes two packs a day, doesn't she?

Heavy smokers usually have early menopause.

But I don't drink or smoke - my periods are regular. It suggests that nature itself regulates who should reproduce and who shouldn't..."

No, she doesn't drink or smoke! It's just early menopause, the doctors said it happens even to healthy women... rarely, but it does..

Ch. 14 Well, I smoke (less than a pack a day), I'm well over 40, my health is fine, and my periods are regular. I doubt smoking and the onset of menopause are related. I've heard that early menopause can occur due to previous abortions or gynecological diseases, but because of smoking... this is the first time I'm hearing that.

I gave birth to my third child at 41 very easily. My daughter is already 9 years old, and I am healthy, beautiful, and slim because I've been doing aerobics for 20 years and swimming on Saturdays. You need to have a good husband who supports you both emotionally and financially—then everything will be okay!

Of course, sweetie, go ahead and have the baby, don't be afraid. I gave birth at 43 to a healthy boy who's now 5 years old. My oldest son is 26 and the middle one is 16. I managed somehow, and many people would say, "Oh, what if he's born with Down syndrome? What if he's sick?" Doctors can be a bit off sometimes too. But I said, "As God wills," and he was born beautiful and clever beyond his years, bringing joy to all of us, especially my husband.

I'm happy for you, thanks for the optimism!)) It's just that I don't have any children yet, and if it happens, of course, this will be my first birth! But I'm also staying positive and sure that everything will be fine! Good luck to you!

And I'm afraid to give birth... I'm 40, just got married, my husband has no children, but I have a 20-year-old son. I have a negative Rh factor, and I'm a very emotional woman, and I'm afraid that my fears might harm my health.

I live in Israel. I have many acquaintances who gave birth at 47, and one case is absolutely extraordinary... She was 46, had polio, was in a wheelchair, hadn't had her period for two years, got pregnant, and gave birth to a boy.

I wish I had your problems. I'm 42, my youngest is 8, pregnant with triplets, already 6 weeks along, and I'm still happy. I never expected to be a mom again. If God gave this to me, then it must be meant to be. I feel wonderful!

Perhaps more than one. My mother, at 40, after marrying a younger man for the second time, gave birth to three girls with him. Now she's expecting her fourth daughter. She's 45 now but looks at least 10 years younger—radiant and happy.

Dear girls, I'm 42 - giving birth tomorrow or the day after. Right now, the only inconvenience is lying on my back and writing. These are my fourth childbirth - how is it different from the previous pregnancies? I'd say not at all, except that with those three boys I had no morning sickness, but here's a surprise - a girl, so of course I've been nauseous almost the entire pregnancy, whether because of that or not, I don't know. When I wanted to get pregnant, I asked one doctor what she thought if I decided to go for it again. She looked at me with wide eyes and said, "Take care of the children you already have," and with my spinal hernias - there are eight of them, two in the lower back - she said, "Are you out of your mind?" So here's the thing: from the first day I got pregnant, I forgot about the back pain and that I have hernias that usually give me no peace - they did. I don't know what will happen after childbirth, but right now, my lower back feels better than when I'm not pregnant. Probably, if there's a desire and love to give yourself and your husband another happy moment, you should take the chance, especially since not many can even get pregnant at this age.

The phrase "better than not pregnant" is better than "better than pregnant."

After the age of 40, and especially after 50, a very small percentage of women worldwide give birth. This percentage is no greater than the number of young mothers who tragically die due to accidents or illnesses (such as cancer). And the children of these young mothers become orphans. So, there is no need to berate women over 40 or 50 who give birth, accusing them of alleged irresponsibility toward their newborns. The percentage of older mothers is no higher than the percentage of young mothers who leave their children with grandparents from birth until adulthood while moving to big cities to work. So, there is no need to twist the facts or insult those who have miraculously given birth.

My mom gave birth to me at 42
And I'm totally fine, and my mom is too))

Of course, it's worth giving birth if you become pregnant. I myself had my third child at 43. Especially since my overall health allowed it. No one judged me, and my gynecologist said, "Have the baby, no doubts about it." She's generally very supportive of late pregnancies. The most important things are your own mindset and a good doctor. So, to all women who want to have a child at a mature age, I recommend from personal experience finding a good doctor like Titova ***** I., who won't act surprised but will support you and whom you can trust. During this pregnancy, something prompted me, and I stopped eating meat in the second trimester. And that was fine—I didn't eat it, and she didn't scare me by saying my hemoglobin would drop or that it was bad for the baby or me. If you don't want to, don't eat it; that's how your body feels. And my hemoglobin didn't drop! Everything turned out well, and a healthy girl was born. So, anything is possible! Good luck to everyone!

All my girlfriends are pregnant these days. It's totally a trend now! Everyone over 40 is having babies. The standard of living is rising, and there are no obstacles to having a good pregnancy and childbirth. This also positively affects a woman's hormonal balance, delaying her period of decline.

I gave birth at 41. My older children are 16 and 18. I was worried about how the pregnancy would go, but it went wonderfully. It was the easiest of the three. I delivered on time, with a natural birth. Now my little son is 5 months old. Daily happiness. A surge of strength and energy. As for difficulties and fatigue, they can happen whether you're 20 or 40.

Usually on Woman.ru, people think that after 25 it's already too late. My mom had her second child at 32, and all our acquaintances were saying, why at that age...

I'm 43. I'm writing this while two little munchkins are snoring next to me—they're 9 months old. My oldest is 22. I never doubted for a minute that I should have these babies. My husband, with his tough-guy demeanor, is literally blowing raspberries on his little princesses' bottoms. We often wonder—how did we ever live without these tiny beings? When children are wanted, there's no talk of hardship. Everything gets resolved through joint effort and is done with such joy that I can't even begin to mention any difficulties.

Yes, and back to the original question—both little ones are perfectly healthy in every way, knock on wood! As is their mom, of course ))) I always knew everything would go smoothly since I had no health issues. Plus, I was very careful about my diet, exercise, and rest. And it all turned out great—I sailed through the pregnancy )). So age doesn’t necessarily mean problems. It’s all individual. The key is to realistically assess your capabilities and current health. Wishing everyone all the best!

So, how are your periods doing after 6 years?

You're so mean... Waiting 6 years just to ask such a question!

So much bullshit. Everyone here just gave birth after 40 and everything's super. Who's autistic or schizophrenic, and that's a question for the future. And don't give me that "everything's great" crap.

Oh, please. What can an elderly woman give birth to at 43? Cells just deteriorate and don't renew. If you give birth when you're old, it means your whole body is aging. At that point, it doesn't matter if you eat healthy food or hamburgers. In short, normal babies aren't born after 40. Time will prove this fact.

An acquaintance gave birth to her first child at 52.
Both are healthy. Everything is fine, T.T.T.

You're such a fool, envy will choke you.

What a righteous and kind woman, to speak of someone she doesn't even know—and so modest too)))

"Holy Spirit, who resolves all problems and illuminates all paths so that I may reach my goal, You who grant me the Divine gift of forgiveness and forgetting all wrongs committed against me, in all of life's storms, remaining with me. In this brief prayer, I wish to thank You for everything and once again affirm that I will never and under no circumstances part from You, despite any illusions of matter. I desire to abide with You in Your eternal glory. I thank You for all Your blessings to me and my loved ones. I beseech You, grant us the chance to become parents of a healthy child."

How did you feel after giving birth? And how quickly did your body recover?

Giving birth earlier is definitely better. It's better for both the mom and the baby. Everything is right. Both health-wise and psychologically, when the children of 25-year-old moms will shout at a 45-year-old that his grandma has come to pick him up. Older moms will face more challenges. When they go to school and attend graduation. One can argue about this for a long time, disagree and dispute it... But it's a fact.

But despite all this, one should have children! At 25, 35, or 42—having children is necessary. Because otherwise, our lives are empty and meaningless. Childless marriages at any age are empty marriages. Happiness lies in children. And if it so happens that the Lord has decided to give a baby at a mature age—well, that's wonderful. I'll say that I'm 38 myself and I dream of giving birth. I haven't had a child not because I was building a career or for any other reason, but due to health issues. I've been through a lot for the sake of a baby. And I don't care about the ladies spewing venom here and everywhere, who don't know where to vent their bile. And if my baby chooses me and is born—it will be the greatest happiness in life.

That's exactly on point!!!!!! That's exactly how it is!!!

I'm tired of hearing that we won't have time to raise children. Go educate those teenagers who abandon babies in maternity hospitals!!!

My friend gave birth to a healthy, beautiful baby girl at 42... everyone is well, and we are overjoyed.