Childbirth after 40!

My mum's the same))

She's worked herself to the bone all her life, (plus hereditary illnesses on top of everything - she takes after my grandmother, and our grandmother "weakened" early), but my mum's still running around)))

Though about the child... I had a congenital speech defect, had an operation (it wasn't a complicated procedure - there were 5 other boys with young mums in the ward with me), and if you prepare for pregnancy - that'd be absolutely brilliant))))

It's just that my dad was also about 10-15 years older than my mum.

Thank you, that's reassuring) I've only just started thinking about having a child... many doctors pull a sour face when they find out I'm on the verge of 41 and have decided to have a baby!!

A friend of mine gave birth at 42. A wonderful little boy. And looking after your health is important at any age.

My aunt had a child on her own at 42, her first one, without a husband, just for herself. The result is, she has no money, the child isn't accepted into kindergarten, and she doesn't want to work in the city (she's always worked on a shift basis). She's become so unkempt, like an old granny. The child is almost 3 years old and speaks very poorly; it seems to me she takes her frustration out on him. On top of that, she has a difficult personality. In short, I wouldn't want to end up like that.

I was born when my mother was 40, as long as the baby is loved and wanted, you'll manage the rest.

If this is your first child - have it and don't even think twice.

Come on, make up your mind already; menopause is just around the corner, and it could happen at any moment after 40.

That's for sure, my friend decided to have a second child and at 37, menopause hit her out of the blue, she was in shock...

Of course, author, go ahead and have the baby, and if you don't have any children yet, don't even hesitate.

Your father was older than your mum and you don't know his exact age?

I had my second child at 40, and everyone looked at me sideways and thought I was crazy. But I only regret one thing—that I didn't have children earlier. If I had, perhaps I wouldn't have just two, but three kids. I can say one thing: no one is happier than I am. I cherished and enjoyed every second of my pregnancy, and now I can't get enough of my little daughter. I had my first at 24 and didn't experience such feelings back then. Seeing me now, my friends envy me and are considering having children in their early forties too—two have already done so and don't regret it one bit! You absolutely must have children!!!

Yes. I know examples where both the children are healthy and the mothers are ready to care for the baby (by the age of 40). A good age)

The whole issue lies in health, both mental and physical. Many people are afraid, they psych themselves out, plus they eat who knows what, don’t exercise, are inactive, and then complain, saying they have no health at all. Be more positive, more active—and everything will work out for you. Your body won’t let you down, and your baby will be born healthy.

How awful... I'm 52 and still no menopause...

Your friend, I suppose, smokes two packs of cigarettes a day?

Heavy smokers usually have early menopause.

But I don't drink or smoke - my periods are regular. It suggests that nature itself regulates who should reproduce and who shouldn't...

Even stranger things happen here. One lady on the thread about childbirth mentioned that when she gave birth to her second child, the maternity hospital was so awful, it was cold, it was January or February, she doesn't remember exactly... She was asked whether she really doesn't remember the month her child was born)))

No, she doesn't drink or smoke! It's just early menopause, the doctors said it happens even in healthy women... rarely, but it does..

Point 14: Well, I smoke (less than a pack a day), I'm well over 40, my health is fine, and my periods are regular. I doubt there's any connection between smoking and the onset of menopause. I've heard that early menopause can occur due to previous abortions or gynaecological issues, but because of smoking... that's the first I've heard of it.

I gave birth to my third child at the age of 41, very easily. My daughter is already 9 years old, and I am healthy, beautiful, and slim because I've been doing aerobics for 20 years and swimming on Saturdays. You need to have a good husband who supports you both emotionally and financially—then everything will be okay!

Of course, darling, go ahead and have the baby, don't be afraid. I gave birth at 43 to a healthy boy, who's now 5 years old. My eldest son is 26, and the middle one is 16. I managed somehow, and many people would say, "Oh, what if he's born with Down's syndrome? What if he's ill?" Doctors can be a bit odd too, but I said, "As God wills," and he was born beautiful and clever beyond his years, bringing joy to all of us, especially my husband.

I'm happy for you, thank you for the optimism)) It's just that I don't have any children, and these will be, if they happen of course, my first birth! But I'm also feeling positive and sure that everything will be fine! Good luck to you!

And I'm afraid of giving birth... I'm 40, just got married, my husband has no children, but I have a 20-year-old son. I have a negative Rh factor, and I'm a very emotional woman, and I'm afraid that my fears might harm my health.

I live in Israel. I know many people who gave birth at 47, and one case is truly extraordinary... She was 46, had polio, was in a wheelchair, hadn't had periods for two years, yet she got pregnant and gave birth to a boy.

I wish I had your problems. I'm 42, my youngest is 8, pregnant with triplets, already 6 weeks along, and I'm still happy—I never expected to be a mum again. If God has given this, then it must be meant to be. I feel wonderful!

Perhaps more than one. My mother, at the age of 40, after marrying a younger man for the second time, gave birth to three girls with him. Now she's expecting her fourth daughter. She's 45 now but looks at least 10 years younger—radiant and happy.

Dear girls, I'm 42 – giving birth tomorrow or the day after. The only uncomfortable thing right now is lying on my back and writing. This is my fourth delivery – how does it differ from the previous pregnancies? I'd say not at all, except that with those three boys I had no morning sickness, but here's the surprise – a girl, and of course I've been nauseous almost the entire pregnancy, whether because of that or not, I don't know. When I was considering getting pregnant, I asked one doctor what she thought if I decided to go for it. She looked at me with wide eyes and said, "Focus on the children you already have," and with my spinal hernias – there are eight of them, two in the lower back – she said, "Are you out of your mind?" So here's the thing: from the first day I got pregnant, I forgot about the back pain and the hernias that usually bother me constantly – they did. I don't know what will happen after delivery, but right now, my lower back feels better than when I'm not pregnant. Probably, if there's a desire and love to give yourself and your husband another happy moment, you should take the chance, especially since not many at this age can even get pregnant anymore.

The imprint in the word * is better than not pregnant* - better than pregnant

After the age of 40, and especially after 50, a very small percentage of women worldwide give birth. This percentage is no greater than the number of young mothers who tragically die due to accidents or illnesses (such as cancer). And the children of these young mothers become orphans. So, there is no need to berate women over 40 or 50 who give birth, accusing them of irresponsibility towards their newborns. The percentage of older mothers is no higher than the percentage of young mothers who leave their children with grandparents from birth until adulthood while moving to big cities for work. So, there is no need to twist the facts or insult those who have miraculously given birth.

My mum had me at 42
And I'm perfectly fine, and so is my mum))

Of course, it's worth giving birth if pregnancy occurs. I myself had my third child at 43. Especially since my overall health allowed it. No one raised an eyebrow, and my gynaecologist said, "Have the baby, no doubts about it." She's generally very supportive of later-life births. The key is your own mindset and a good doctor. So, to all women who wish to have a child at a mature age, I recommend from personal experience finding a good doctor, like Titova *****.I., who won't make a fuss but will support you and whom you can trust. During this pregnancy, something came over me, and I stopped eating meat in the second trimester. And it was fine; I didn't eat it, and she didn't scare me by saying my haemoglobin would drop or that it was bad for the baby or me. If you don't want to, don't eat it; that's how your body feels. And my haemoglobin didn't drop! Everything turned out well, and a healthy girl was born. So, anything is possible! Good luck to everyone!

All my girlfriends are pregnant these days. It's totally the trend now! Everyone over 40 is expecting. The standard of living is rising, and there are no obstacles to having a good pregnancy and childbirth. This also positively affects a woman's hormonal balance, delaying the period of her decline.

I gave birth at 41. My elder children are 16 and 18. I was worried about how the pregnancy would go. But it went brilliantly. It was the easiest of the three. I delivered on time, with a natural birth. Now my little son is 5 months old. It's daily happiness. A surge of strength and energy. As for difficulties and fatigue, they can happen whether you're 20 or 40.

Usually on Woman.ru, they think that after 25 it's already too late. My mum had her second child at 32, and all our acquaintances said, "Why at such an age?"

I'm 43. I'm writing this while two little munchkins, both 9 months old, are snoring beside me. My eldest is 22. I never doubted for a minute that I should have them. My husband, with his tough masculine character, literally dotes on his little princesses. We often wonder—how did we ever live without these little ones before? When babies are wanted, there's no talk of hardship. Everything gets resolved through joint effort and is done with such joy that I can't even begin to mention any difficulties.

Yes, and to the original question – both little ones are healthy in every way, touch wood! As is their mother, of course ))) I always knew everything would go well because there were no health issues. Plus, I was very meticulous about my diet, exercise, and rest. And so it turned out – I sailed through the pregnancy )). So age doesn't necessarily mean problems. It's all individual. The main thing is to realistically assess your capabilities and current health. Wishing everyone all the best!

So, how are your periods doing after 6 years?

You're such a meanie... Waiting 6 years just to ask such a question!

So much nonsense. Everyone here just gave birth after 40 and everything's super. Who's autistic or schizophrenic, and that's a question for the future. And don't give me that lala about everything being good.

Oh, please. What can an elderly woman of 43 possibly give birth to? Cells just deteriorate and don't renew. If you give birth when you're old, it means your whole body is aging. At that point, it doesn't matter if you eat healthy food or hamburgers. In short, normal babies aren't born after 40. Time will prove this fact.

An acquaintance gave birth to her first child at the age of 52.
Both are healthy. Everything is fine, God willing.

You're such a fool, envy will choke you.

What a righteous and kind woman, to speak of someone she doesn't know in such a way, and so modest too)))

"Holy Spirit, who resolves all problems and illuminates every path so that I may reach my goal, You who grant me the Divine gift of forgiveness and the forgetting of all wrongs committed against me, in all the storms of life, remaining with me. In this brief prayer, I wish to thank You for everything and once again affirm that I will never part from You for any reason, despite any illusions of matter. I desire to abide with You in Your eternal glory. I thank You for all Your blessings to me and my loved ones. I beseech You, grant us the chance to become parents of a healthy child."

How did you feel after giving birth? And how quickly did your body recover?

Giving birth earlier is definitely better. It's better for both the mother and the baby. It's all correct. From a health perspective and psychologically, when the children of 25-year-old mothers are mistaken for being picked up by their grandmother at 45. Older mothers will face more challenges. When they go to school and attend graduation ceremonies. One can argue, disagree, and dispute this for a long time... But it's a fact.

However, despite all this, one must have children! At 25, 35, or 42 – having children is necessary. Because otherwise, our lives are empty and meaningless. Childless marriages at any age are empty marriages. Happiness lies in children. And if it so happens that the Lord has arranged to give a baby at a mature age – well, that's wonderful). I'll say that I myself am 38 and dream of giving birth. I haven't had children not because I was building a career or for any other reasons, but due to health issues. I've been through a lot for the sake of a baby. And I couldn't care less about the spiteful ladies spewing venom here and everywhere, who don't know where to vent their bile. And if my baby chooses me and is born – it will be the greatest happiness in life))).

That's absolutely spot on!!!!!! That's exactly how it is!!!

I'm sick of hearing that we won't have time to raise children. Go and educate those teenagers who abandon their babies in maternity hospitals!!!

My friend gave birth to a healthy, beautiful baby girl at 42... everyone is well, and we are overjoyed.