The baby isn't sleeping. At all.

I really don't know what to tell you. We've been living in this mode for about two and a half years. The doctors unanimously said it was normal.

Wait. My daughter also used to nap 2-3 times a day for 30-40 minutes at that age and fed every 2-3 hours at night. By six months, we settled into a routine with two short naps in the morning and evening, and after lunch, she would sleep for 2-3 hours during a walk. Honestly, I've only read about babies who sleep all the time on forums; I've never seen such in real life.

The first few months are the most unstable in terms of sleep, be prepared.

I had a similar experience, author. After feeding, my baby wouldn't fall asleep right away and would fuss a lot. I had to offer the breast to calm her down, and she would sleep on it until about 1.5 months old, sometimes hanging on for hours. I thought I'd die from lack of sleep. Then, my milk supply wasn't enough for her, so I switched to formula, and things got a bit easier. Also, I bought her a dummy at 1.5 months, which really helped when she started crying; without it, my daughter would have done nothing but wail. After 3 months, she became calmer, no more of those unexplained tears. Sometimes I can even leave her alone without worry; she might only cry if she's hungry or has a tummy ache. So, hang in there, author.

I think you should feed him, then play with him for a long time, keep him awake for 4-5 hours without feeding during that period. When he gets fussy and tired, feed him well and let him sleep. I believe you often feed him little by little, so he doesn't get full, sleeps a bit, and wakes up. Make the intervals between feedings longer and feed him more; your milk supply will increase as well.

I used to place him on my stomach, and we slept together like that constantly until he was two months old; now he sleeps next to me (he's three months old). He might wake up during light sleep if I'm not nearby, but I don't mind sitting beside him while he sleeps. I either sleep cuddling him or read.

The cherry stone heating pad ZerO-99 really helped us with colic!!

Go to a good neurologist; there is usually always a reason why a child isn't sleeping.

I won't boast, that's not why I'm here. Simple advice - if breast milk isn't enough, start supplementing with formula. When you're out walking, park the pram near a bench, sit down and rest. Bathe them in the evening before feeding so the baby gets tired and sleeps well. When I realised my child wasn't getting enough milk, I gave up on all that and bought Frisolac. The baby was full and immediately slept for four hours. A whole year passed in this routine without us even noticing. We started introducing cereal porridge at four months. The child didn't cry at all until they were one.

Excuse me, what does "вошкается" mean?

My daughter was only awake during feedings and for about 1.5 hours during the day for the first three weeks; the rest of the time she slept. But I was formula feeding, as I had almost no milk. I have no idea what it's like to be up all night—in two years, we only had one sleepless night because of a high fever. This is for the guest, but for the author, I think the baby isn't getting enough to eat, and that's why they're not sleeping properly.

Try swaddling him tightly with a cloth, like we used to. I wrap him up at night, and he sleeps much more peacefully, doesn't fidget with his hands, and doesn't scratch himself. During the day, he sleeps on his tummy. Yesterday he slept a lot... today, during our walk, he only slept for an hour, and after being awake for 2 hours, he finally fell asleep again. He's almost 3 months old.

She's probably just hungry; well-fed babies sleep almost all the time until they're one month old.

My little one behaved the same way for the first month or month and a half. He wouldn't sleep for hours—not crying, just not sleeping! Neurologically, everything was fine! My mum scolded me, saying it was because there was no routine. I started establishing a routine, and then, closer to a month and a half, he began sleeping for about 5-6 hours at night and 1.5-2 hours during walks in the day. The key is to go out at the same time. And as already advised—stick to the intervals between feedings—the baby eats little and often and is constantly hungry. Endure one difficult day—feed every 3-4 hours (+/- half an hour), and the baby will start eating more at once and sleep longer.
Hang in there! It will get easier soon!

And regarding the comment about hungry babies being restless and full ones being calm—that's not true!!!
My little one is calm, well-fed, and smiley. But he wouldn't sleep for hours. It turned out that all the children in my husband's family are like this—inquisitive—they look around and that's why they don't sleep!!!
All children are different.

It's a colloquial word. It means the same as fidgeting or moving about. Waving their little hands and feet, opening and closing their eyes, looking at something, grunting, lifting their head. Have you never seen children before?

So how do I explain mine then? He gained 1750g in the first month, I had loads of milk, he just screamed constantly, slept 40 minutes at night and during the day.

Mine didn't sleep either. Not only that, he would scream and demand to be held, and when in arms, he wouldn't just lie still—I had to walk around, or else he'd wriggle like a snake and yell.
I started swaddling him for sleep, but only his arms; his legs needed to be spread out. I'd give him a dummy and rock him. Before that, I'd top him up with formula to be sure he was full. Every day at the same time for two hours. If he didn't sleep, I'd still rock him. Once he dozed off, I'd lay him next to me, snuggle him close, and we'd lie like that. If he stirred, I'd gently rock him again. And so it went for the full two hours. No jumping around with him, no shouting.
When we came back from a walk, I wouldn't wake him; I'd let him sleep.
At night, I'd put him to bed with me. At first, he slept right by my side. Don't be afraid of "spoiling" or "getting him used to it." He's three months old now, and finally, his sleep has settled into a rhythm. I transfer him to his cot to sleep—all is well.
They advise against dummies and supplementary feeding. But I wasn't too fixated on breastfeeding from the start; it was just too hard for me. He's on mixed feeding now, breastfeeding twice a day. I mention this because I've heard all the advice: no dummies, feed on demand, no need to swaddle, don't get them used to being held, etc. In the end, I barely slept for a month.
Now it's clearer: if he's crying, it's either because he needs to sleep or eat. If he's eaten recently, then it's the dummy and rocking. He won't fall asleep on his own.

I adore the word 'вошкается' :))
Author, do you have this every single day or do you have good, sleepy days too?

We also sleep soundly and sweetly outdoors, only I don't get enough rest. By the way, someone said that not letting a child sleep is not okay because when little ones get too tired, it's harder for them to fall asleep and it gets even worse.

Have you considered the possibility of underfeeding? When mine is full, there's no need to invite him to sleep; he dozes off almost immediately. He's on formula, NAN from birth, and sleep issues are rare, only occurring if he's feverish or teething.

So, tell him something, sing songs, talk about how much you love him. He's ready to take in information, yet you leave him alone. Actually, children get tired from information and then sleep and eat well. And go for more walks, let him breathe fresh air and look at the trees. What he's missing is your communication and connection.

For the first 4-5 months, my little one was constantly attached to me, breastfeeding. I didn't mind at all; I told my husband right away that my only tasks were feeding and bonding. Babies should sleep with their parents too—back in the USSR, they'd forcibly separate them in maternity wards and teach parents to put them in cribs, not approach them, and let them "cry it out." This breeds distrust in children toward their parents if you don't respond to their calls or let them sleep. Just lie down with them, both during the day and at night, with the breast; they'll calm down and fall asleep. Babies are very attuned to their mothers—they've retained a strong bond from pregnancy: if you're not sleeping, they won't sleep, and vice versa. Mine wouldn't fall asleep until I mentally convinced myself to drift off; as soon as I started feeling sleepy, she'd doze off too. And if I tried to get up before she was fully asleep, she'd wake up! So, sleep together.

I've heard about this method – playing a recording of a mother's or a pregnant woman's heartbeat to babies, and they immediately calm down. It's because these are familiar sounds associated with comfort and warmth. Is it possible to make such a recording here or purchase a ready-made one? It would be interesting to try it out!

Ultrasound technicians record videos with sound, but the noises there are awful - all sorts of squelching sounds, blood flowing through vessels. There are also discs sold with processed heartbeat sounds, like here - http://babysdreams.ru/, we ordered one like that, it really works. Very calming, I'd even say it brings such peacefulness.. The child fusses less, it's so interesting... After all, children do have this familiarity with this sound from their womb-dwelling days. Very good for the nervous system, and in general.

We had such a phase, we outgrew it.

Lenochka, it would be really helpful for me, as my little one is quite restless, doesn't sleep too well, often wakes up and cries. I just can't figure out what's bothering him. The doctor said it's because we're on formula, lacking the soothing factor of breastfeeding, plus we don't co-sleep, even though I know it's important. But I sleep like a log, sometimes I don't even hear him crying... how could we share a bed, I might accidentally roll over on him... Though when he's awake, I'm holding him all the time. Perhaps a recording of a mother's heartbeat could make a difference, that's why I'm asking.

We had no issues with sleep; she would fall asleep wonderfully, allowing Mum and Dad to rest, and I even managed to get some housework done while she was napping. However, I didn't breastfeed her; it just didn't work out for us. She grew up on NAN formula. She'd have her bottle and doze off straight away. Sometimes, yes, I needed to lie down next to her, but then she slept on her own, and everything was just fine.

They have loads of different formulas. Which one did you have?

We had Nan Optipro. It's a formula with hydrolysed protein. And the fact that Nan has many other different formulas - I think that's only an advantage.

Grunting, waving arms and legs about, looking around.... That's how I understand it

They're asking for advice here about why their child isn't sleeping, not how yours sleeps all the time!!! Think about why you're posting this useless daft information here!!!

The first one didn't sleep at all, literally, until they were a year old... The first time they slept a full 5 hours was in the 11th month... Didn't even make it through the first month... Then we switched to mixed feeding, which led to tummy colic... Then teething... Then something else, and so it went for the first 11 months. We saw everyone from dietitians to psychotherapists, fed on schedule and off, tried some drops made from reindeer something... Prescribed by a neurologist. Cost a fortune... All useless, no abnormalities found. So we just endured it... But it was truly awful. And now, 10 years later, another daughter... First month and the same story all over again... There's milk, she feeds well and gains weight normally... But she doesn't sleep. Seems like fate, and boys are calmer judging by friends' experiences. Girls are almost all this restless. So it seems we just have to grit our teeth and bear it... Though I know it's pushing us to the edge, the first 1-2 months you can endure. By the third, it breaks you in a way that's no joke... Then you just get used to not sleeping, like a zombie )))

My first was a girl and she also slept poorly in the first months, cried and had tummy troubles. I thought that was the limit!))) Now I have a boy, and it's bloody hell, everything is much worse! And now we truly know what colic is, because what my first had now seems like just gas! With colic mine screamed so much you could go mad! The first month he ate and screamed hysterically and slept a bit in between... our poor neighbours...

And at six months, our son became completely unmanageable! It was impossible to put him to sleep; he kept waking up and being fussy, his routine was disrupted, and as a result, he even started eating poorly. The neurologist recommended we give him Dormikind, one tablet three times a day, saying it's a homeopathic remedy and not harmful to a child's body. I gave it to him about half an hour before feeding, and by the second day, he started sleeping more peacefully, waking up only once during the night, and became calmer during the day, no longer refusing to eat. We didn't notice any side effects, so now I'll only give Dormikind for unexplained restlessness.

Yes, Dormikind is a good remedy; we also gave it to our little daughter when she started having trouble falling asleep. I liked that it has a natural composition and can be administered from birth.

Same with us

Fidgets

Exactly the same, similar story with my son. If he's not sleeping, he's either crying or lying there blinking his eyes, rubbing his ears, yawning, closing his eyes, and a second later—wide awake again, and it all starts over...

Interesting... Where did they find a mother like you? He'll be screaming his head off for 4 hours and God forbid he dies from asphyxiation. Why the hell are you coming to the forum with such advice?

Loads of milk still isn't an indicator that the baby is full. The milk might not be fatty enough.

Just remember, when settling down to sleep next to your child, that an extremely tired mum can accidentally smother the baby. So it's better to let them sleep in their own cradle or put them in a cosy nest on your bed.

With my first daughter, we had no sleep problems at all, I didn't know what colic, constipation, or spit-up were... Teething was also easy.. The baby grew up on formula, we were rarely ill.
My second daughter - also on formula, definitely no problems with underfeeding... But sleep - it's something else. At night I sleep at most three hours total. She's only one month old, during the day she can be awake for 2.5-3 hours, although I try to stick to a routine.
So the problem isn't always just with feeding... We're eating really well... Soon we have an appointment with a neurologist, we'll see what they say. I'm thinking maybe I should take her to an osteopath...

I had the same with my son. But now with my daughter, it's possible to get some rest.
She sleeps in the morning and during the evening walk. But during the day, she doesn't sleep at all, even though it's clear she wants to. I've done all the routines and checked her tummy, but she still only falls asleep for 45 minutes, then wakes up and screams. After that, she either sits in my arms, falls asleep, or cries. I'm so exhausted already 😭😭😭

Fidgeting, waving arms and legs in different directions, fiddling about

How did you end up coping? When did all of that pass?

Mine sleeps all day with short breaks, maybe an hour at a time, but in the evening it's a problem to get him to sleep

Same here, my child stopped sleeping properly, only sleeps either in my arms or with me. Won't let me get any housework done

Hello, could you please tell me if this passes?

Автор в итоге что у вас было как решили проблему? У нас тоже самое один в один проблема