The baby isn't sleeping. At all.

I don't even know what to tell you. We lived like this for about two and a half years. The doctors unanimously said it was normal.

Wait. My daughter also slept 2-3 times a day for 30-40 minutes at that age and nursed every 2-3 hours at night. By six months, we settled into a routine with two short naps in the morning and evening, and after lunch, she would sleep for 2-3 hours during walks. Honestly, I've only read about babies who sleep all the time on forums—I've never seen such a child in real life.

The first few months are the most unstable in terms of sleep, be prepared.

Author, I had almost the same experience. After feeding, the baby wouldn't fall asleep right away and would fuss, so I had to offer the breast to calm them down. They would sleep on the breast until about 1.5 months old and could hang on for hours—I thought I'd die from lack of sleep. Then, my milk wasn't enough for them, so I switched to formula, and things got a bit easier. Also, at 1.5 months, I bought a pacifier, which really helped when they started crying. Without it, my daughter would have done nothing but wail. After 3 months, they became calmer; there are no more unexplained tears now. I can even leave them alone sometimes, and they only cry if they're hungry or have a tummy ache. Hang in there, author.

I think you should feed him first, then play with him for a long time—don't let him sleep for about 4-5 hours and avoid feeding during this period. When he gets fussy and tired, feed him well and let him sleep. I believe you're feeding him frequently but in small amounts, so he doesn't get full, sleeps a little, and then wakes up. Try increasing the intervals between feedings and give him more milk; this way, you'll also produce more milk.

I used to place him on my stomach, and we slept together like that constantly until he was 2 months old. Now he sleeps next to me (he's 3 months old) and might wake up during light sleep if I'm not nearby. I don't mind sitting beside him while he sleeps; I either sleep cuddling him or read.

The ZerO-99 cherry pit heating pad really helped us with colic!!

Go see a good neurologist; there's usually always a reason why a child isn't sleeping.

I won't boast; that's not why I'm here. Simple advice—if breast milk isn't enough, start supplementing with formula. When you're out for a walk, park the stroller near a bench, sit down, and rest. Bathe your baby in the evening before feeding so they get tired and sleep well. When I realized my child wasn't getting enough milk, I gave up on everything else and bought Frisolac. The baby was full and immediately slept for four hours. A whole year passed in this routine, and we hardly noticed. We started introducing cereal porridge at four months. The child didn't cry at all until they were a year old.

Sorry, what does "вошкается" mean?

My daughter was only awake during feedings and for about 1.5 hours during the day for the first three weeks; the rest of the time she slept. But I was formula-feeding, as I had almost no milk. I have no idea what it's like to be up all night—in two years, we only had one sleepless night because of a high fever. This is for the guest, but for the author, I think the baby isn't getting enough to eat, and that's why they're not sleeping properly.

Try swaddling the baby tightly like before. I swaddle him at night, and he sleeps much more peacefully, doesn't fidget with his hands, and doesn't scratch himself. During the day, he sleeps on his stomach. Yesterday he slept a lot... Today, during the walk, he was only awake for an hour, and after 2 hours of being awake, he finally fell asleep again. He's almost 3 months old.

She's probably hungry; well-fed babies sleep all the time until they're about a month old.

My baby behaved the same way during the first month or month and a half. He wouldn't sleep for hours—not crying, just not sleeping! Neurologically, everything was fine! My mom scolded me, saying it was because there was no schedule. I started establishing a routine, and then, closer to a month and a half, he began sleeping 5-6 hours at night and 1.5-2 hours during walks during the day. The key is to go for walks at the same time. And as already advised—wait out the intervals between feedings. The baby eats a little at a time and is constantly hungry. Endure one tough day—feed every 3-4 hours (+/- half an hour)—and the baby will start eating more at once and sleeping longer.
Hang in there! It will get easier soon!

And regarding the comment about hungry babies being restless and full ones being calm—that's not true!!!
My baby is calm, well-fed, and smiley. But he didn't sleep for hours. It turned out that all the children in my husband's family are like this—curious—they look around and that's why they don't sleep!!!
All children are different.

It's a colloquial word. It means the same as fidgeting or moving around. Wiggling their hands, lifting their legs, opening and closing their eyes, looking at something, grunting, raising their head a bit. Have you never seen kids or what?

Then how do I understand mine? He gained 1750 grams in the first month, I had tons of milk, he just screamed constantly, slept 40 minutes at night and during the day.

Mine didn't sleep either. Not only that, he would scream and demand to be held, and when held, he wouldn't just lie still—I had to walk around, otherwise he would squirm like an eel and yell.

I started swaddling him for sleep, but only his arms; his legs needed to be spread out. I'd put a pacifier in his mouth and rock him. Before that, I'd supplement with formula to make sure he was full. Every day at the same time for two hours. If he didn't sleep, I'd still rock him. Once he dozed off, I'd lay him next to me, snuggle him close, and we'd lie like that. If he stirred, I'd gently rock him again. And so it went for the full two hours. No jumping around with him, no yelling.

When we came back from a walk, I wouldn't wake him—let him sleep.

At night, I'd put him to bed with me. At first, he slept right by my side. Don't be afraid of "creating habits" or "spoiling" him. He's three months old now, and finally, his sleep has settled into a rhythm. I transfer him to his crib to sleep—everything's fine.

They advise against pacifiers and supplemental feeding. But I wasn't strictly committed to breastfeeding from the start—it was just too hard for me. He's on mixed feeding now, breastfeeding twice a day. I mention this because I listened to all the advice: no pacifiers, feed on demand, no need to swaddle, don't get them used to being held, etc. In the end, I barely slept for a month.

Now it's clearer: if he's crying, it means he's either sleepy or hungry. If he's eaten recently, then it's the pacifier and rocking. He won't fall asleep on his own.

I adore the word "вошкается" :))
Author, do you have this every single day or do you have good, sleepy days too?

We also sleep soundly and sweetly outside, but I just don't get enough rest. By the way, someone said that not letting a child sleep is not okay because when little ones get too tired, it's harder for them to fall asleep and it gets even worse.

Did you consider the possibility of underfeeding? When mine is full, there's no need to coax him to sleep—he dozes off almost immediately. He's on formula, NAN since birth, and sleep issues are rare, only when he's feverish or teething.

So, tell him things, sing songs, talk about how much you love him. He's ready to take in information, but you're leaving him alone. Actually, children get tired from information and then sleep and eat well. And take more walks, let him breathe fresh air and look at the trees. He's missing your interaction and connection.

For the first 4-5 months, my little one was constantly attached to me, nursing. I didn't mind at all; I told my husband right away that my only job was to feed and bond. Babies should sleep with their parents too. Back in the USSR, they'd forcibly separate them in maternity wards and teach you to put them in a crib, not go to them, and let them "cry it out." This breeds distrust in children toward their parents if you don't respond to their cries or let them sleep. Just lie down with them both day and night, with the breast, and they'll calm down and fall asleep. Babies are very attuned to their mothers; they retain a strong bond from pregnancy—if you're not sleeping, they won't sleep, and vice versa. Mine wouldn't fall asleep until I mentally convinced myself to drift off; as soon as I started feeling sleepy, she'd doze off too. If I tried to get up before she was fully asleep, she'd wake up! So, sleep together.

I've heard about this method - playing a recording of a mother's or a pregnant woman's heartbeat to babies, and they immediately calm down. Because these are familiar sounds associated with comfort and warmth. Is there a place where I can get such a recording made or buy a ready-made one? It would be interesting to try it out!

Ultrasound technicians record videos with sound, but the noises there are terrible - all kinds of squelching sounds, blood working in the vessels. They also sell discs with already processed heartbeat sounds, like here - http://babysdreams.ru/, we ordered one like that, it really works. Very calming, I'd even say such peacefulness sets in... The child fusses less, it's so interesting... After all, there is an effect of babies being accustomed to this sound after their 'belly-dwelling' period. Very good for the nervous system, and in general.

We had such a phase, we outgrew it.

Lenochka, it would be really helpful for me, especially since my baby is restless and doesn't sleep very well, often waking up and crying. I can't figure out what's bothering him. The doctor said it's because we're using formula, so there's no calming factor from breastfeeding, plus we don't co-sleep, even though I know it's important. But I sleep like a log and sometimes don't even hear him cry... how could we co-sleep? I might accidentally crush him... Although when he's awake, I hold him constantly. Maybe a recording of a mother's heartbeat could help, that's why I'm asking.

We had no issues with sleep; she would fall asleep perfectly, allowing mom and dad to rest, and I even managed to get some housework done while she was sleeping. However, I didn't breastfeed her; it just didn't work out for us. She grew up on NAN formula. She would drink her formula and immediately doze off. Sometimes, yes, I had to lie down next to her, but then she slept on her own, and everything was just fine.

They have many different formulas. Which one did you eat?

We tried Nan Optipro. It's a formula with partially hydrolyzed protein. And the fact that Nan has many other different formulas - I consider that only an advantage.

Grunting, moving arms and legs around, looking around.... That's how I understand it

They're asking for advice here on why their child isn't sleeping, not how yours sleeps all the time!!! Think about why you're posting this useless stupid information here!!!

The first one didn't sleep at all, literally, until they were a year old... The first time they slept a full 5 hours was in the 11th month... The first month wasn't even completed... Then we switched to mixed feeding, which led to stomach colic... Then teething... Then something else, and that's how the first 11 months went. We consulted everyone from dietitians to psychotherapists, followed feeding schedules and didn't, tried some drops made from deer something... Prescribed by a neurologist. Cost a fortune... All useless, no abnormalities were found. So we just endured it... But it was really brutal. And now, 10 years later, another daughter... First month and the same story all over again... There's milk, she eats enough and gains weight normally... But she doesn't sleep. Seems like fate, and judging by friends, boys are calmer. Almost all girls are this restless. So it looks like we just have to tough it out... Although I understand it's pushing us to the edge, but the first 1-2 months can be endured. By the third, it breaks you down seriously... Then you just get used to not sleeping, like a zombie )))

My first was a girl and she also slept poorly the first months, cried and had tummy troubles. I thought that was the limit))) Now I have a boy, and damn, it's so much worse! And now we truly know what colic is, because compared to my first who I now think just had gas! With colic my son screamed so much you could go crazy! The first month he ate and screamed hysterically and slept a little in between... our poor neighbors...

And at six months, our son became completely unmanageable! It was impossible to put him to sleep; he kept waking up and being fussy, his routine was disrupted, and as a result, he even started eating poorly. The neurologist recommended we give him Dormikind, one tablet three times a day, saying it's a homeopathic remedy and not harmful to a child's body. I gave it to him about half an hour before feeding, and by the second day, he started sleeping more or less peacefully, waking up only once during the night, and became calmer during the day, no longer refusing to eat. We didn't notice any side effects, so now, for any unexplained restlessness, I will only give Dormikind.

Yes, Dormikind is a good medication; we also gave it to our little daughter when she started having trouble falling asleep. I liked that it has a natural composition and can be given from birth.

Same here

Fidgeting

Exactly the same kind of story with my son. If he's not sleeping, he's either crying or lying there blinking his eyes, rubbing his ears, yawning, closing his eyes, and a second later—wide awake again, and it all starts over...

Interesting... Where did they find a mother like you? He'll scream his head off for 4 hours and god forbid he dies from asphyxiation. Why the hell are you coming to the forum with such advice?

A ton of milk still isn't an indicator that the baby is full. The milk might not be fatty enough.

Just remember, when sleeping next to your child, that an extremely tired mommy can accidentally smother the baby. So it's better to let them sleep in their own bassinet or put them in a little nest on your bed.

With my first daughter, we had no sleep problems at all, I didn't know what colic, constipation, or spit-up were... Teething was also easy... The baby grew up on formula, we rarely got sick.
My second daughter - also on formula, definitely no issues with not eating enough... But sleep is something else. At night I sleep at most 3 hours total. She's only one month old, during the day she can be awake for 2.5-3 hours, even though I try to stick to a schedule.
So the problem isn't always just with feeding... We eat really well... We have an appointment with a neurologist soon, we'll see what they say. I'm thinking maybe I should take her to an osteopath...

I had the same experience with my son. But now with my daughter, it's possible to curl up.
She sleeps in the morning and during the evening walk. But during the day, she doesn't sleep at all, even though it's clear she wants to. I've done all the routines and checked her tummy, but she still only falls asleep for 45 minutes and then wakes up screaming. After that, she either sits in my arms, falls asleep, or cries. I'm so exhausted already 😭😭😭

Fidgeting, waving arms and legs in different directions, picking at things

How did you end up coping? When did all of that pass?

Mine sleeps all day with short breaks, maybe an hour at a time, but in the evening it's a problem to put him to sleep.

Same here, my baby stopped sleeping alone, sleeps either in my arms or with me. Won't let me get any housework done.

Hello, could you please tell me if this passes?

Автор в итоге что у вас было как решили проблему? У нас тоже самое один в один проблема